Goal-Setting in the 21st Century

2019-07-03T16:40:35+00:00By |Career, Life, Mental Skills, Performance, Sailing, Teams|

I am working with many clients these days on goal-setting. That, by itself, is not a big switch. We still focus on SMART Goals.  We focus on setting process goals that are within one's control. The switch is that we're using a really cool tool called "Goalscape."  You can see it pictured below.  With Goalscape, we're able to prioritize [...]

What is Biofeedback?

2020-10-28T02:05:53+00:00By |Career, Life, Mental Health, Performance|

Mind-body interaction (“psychophysiology”) is spectacular.  We think something, whether in conscious awareness or not, and our body has physiological reactions…  this happens repeatedly every second of the day.  Thoughts contribute to being regulated (e.g., mentally calm, with appropriate levels of physical alertness) or dysregulated (e.g., rapid thoughts or going blank, with inappropriate levels of physical alertness).  In working with [...]

The Gift of Imperfection

2020-10-22T16:55:52+00:00By |Lacrosse, Life, Other, Performance, Sailing, Swimming|

For simplicity purposes we could just say “nobody’s perfect” and leave it at that... but we all know there’s more to it than a catchy little phrase. When it comes to our children, we all want to see them accomplish great achievements. It’s also understandable for us to feel for them when they aren’t “perfect” ... when they aren’t [...]

Winning vs. Chasing Values

2020-09-23T14:51:41+00:00By |Performance|

In sport, we are taught from a young age to win at all costs and to avoid losing. Over time this can create an all-or-nothing association between winning and happiness vs. losing and disappointment. While winning feels satisfying, these brief moments of satisfaction can also fuel the belief that it’s only the outcome that matters; let’s explore why winning [...]

Coping High Achievers (CHA!) During COVID-19

2020-08-12T19:50:56+00:00By |Lacrosse, Life, Mental Health, Other, Performance, Sailing, Swimming, Teams|

Group Starts online on Tuesday/Wednesday (Dates TBD), 2020 @ 7pm (A virtual group for athletes and other peak performers, feeling the brunt of missed opportunities, milestones, or achievements)   For driven kids and young adults, the current COVID-19 crisis has been hard, between abrupt endings, uncertainty about the future, strained relationships, and more. It is important to give voice [...]

Mental Health Awareness Month: Suicide Prevention

2020-02-01T17:10:06+00:00By |Life, Mental Health|

People are often afraid to ask about thoughts of suicide. Don’t be. In fact, you should also ask if they have specific plans or intent. You will not inspire someone to commit suicide. You can normalize that people sometimes have thoughts about dying, it is a sign or serious distress, and you can work with them to find help [...]

Mental Health Awareness Month: Depression

2020-02-01T17:06:21+00:00By |Life, Mental Health|

Clinical Depression (“Major Depressive Disorder”) consists of some combination of the following symptoms: 1) Depressed mood most of every day; 2) Activities are no longer enjoyable/exciting; 3) Changes in weight or appetite (in either direction); 4) An observable slowing down (of thought or movement); 5) Fatigue or lost energy; 6) Feelings of worthlessness or guilt; 7) Problems concentrating or [...]

Mental Health Awareness Month: Common Diagnoses

2020-02-01T17:15:17+00:00By |Life, Mental Health|

Don’t worry about knowing a mental health diagnosis before referring to a professional, but DO keep an eye out for the following symptoms associated with these two common diagnoses. Adjustment Disorders: No mental health issue should ever be minimized, however, knowing that “adjustment disorders are like the common cold of mental health” can help with removing stigma. With adjustment [...]

Mental Health Awareness Month: Seeking Services

2020-02-01T17:18:39+00:00By |Life, Mental Health|

Seeking Mental Health Services Stigma, for athletes and others seeking help for mental health, is finally fading. Plenty of factors play into this. More people (including elite athletes like Kevin Love, Michael Phelps, and Elena Delle Donne) talking about mental health helps “normalize” it. Elite sports programs (e.g., NBA, NFL, and NCAA) are hiring full-time practitioners to address it. [...]

Mental Health Awareness Month is Coming

2020-02-01T17:18:04+00:00By |Life, Mental Health|

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. The overall objective of raising awareness of mental health issues around the world and mobilizing efforts in support of mental health. The sports world has been starting to recognize the importance of attending to mental health for well-being and performance. Sport psychology, a multi-disciplinary field (psychology/mental health AND sport science), requires multi-disciplinary training [...]

Daily Routines Matter!

2020-04-06T16:22:51+00:00By |Career, Lacrosse, Life, Mental Health, Performance|

This time of COVID-19 has thrown us all for a loop.  Parents have become home-schooling teachers.  Day-to-day norms have all radically changed.  And so, we have to strive to accomplish a “new normal.”  Routines provide stability and continuity in family life during times of stress, because: they facilitate a sense of control, protect well-being, help with work-life balance, and [...]

Coping with Abrupt Endings

2020-04-05T21:21:29+00:00By |Career, Lacrosse, Life, Mental Health, Performance|

UNC Tarheel Women’s Lacrosse player, Katie Hoeg, put it perfectly. "We wanted to be angry at a specific person, or anything," Hoeg said, "But we knew there was nothing to be angry about. Like, this was completely out of our control. We have to do our part."  Anger often provides the illusion of control in a situation that is [...]

Coping and Communicating During COVID-19

2020-04-01T19:12:35+00:00By |Career, Life, Mental Health, Performance|

In our lifetimes, we’ve never experienced anything quite like the current pandemic, its toll on health/lives, mental-emotional well-being, social ramifications, and economic impact. Rather than pretending that everything is “fine,” it’s more useful to be honest (with boundaries, determined by what feels right to you) and to model feeling, expressing, and managing emotions. Another way of putting this is [...]

Coronavirus Message for Clients, Prospective Clients, & Others

2020-04-01T17:12:02+00:00By |Life, Mental Health, Other, Performance|

I first published this on 3/12/20, but will continue adding links, particularly regarding mental health and coping in the face of COVID-19... First off, let me share some useful (and reliable) links about Coronavirus, so that you can learn more about what it is, how it is spread, and how it can be contained.  This article and video from [...]

Crossing the Sport Career Finish Line

2020-02-01T16:35:34+00:00By |Career, Lacrosse, Life, Sailing, Sport Injury, Swimming, Teams|

Like it or not, all sport careers eventually end. Age, injury, family decisions, or other factors will determine how your competitive athletic career will end or be adapted. Like many athletes, especially elites, you may feel that the transition is abrupt. Your life and identity may revolve around sport. Your loss may cause emotional, financial, or personal challenges that [...]