If you’re experiencing post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), it’s important to understand how the different parts of your brain function. Post-traumatic stress is a normal response to traumatic events. However, PTSD is a more serious condition that impacts brain function, and it often results from traumas experienced during combat, disasters, or violence. Your brain is equipped with an alarm system [...]
It’s a good idea to have a choice of coping strategies to meet the specific needs of each situation you face—some “problem-focused” and some “emotion-focused.” During severe stress, you might find that your old ways of dealing with problems aren’t doing enough to help. For example, your preferred way of coping in the past might have been venting to [...]
This column is inspired by my dear friend and colleague, Wendy Bay Lewis (1949-2013). Through the vehicle of this column, Wendy and I often tried to share wisdom or insights with our community. Our column started out titled, “Work Matters,” and became “Business Matters.” If we kept it going, we might have lobbied for “Life Matters” and “Death Matters.” [...]
During the pinnacle of his career, Tiger Woods said in reference to his peak performance moments, “…for me, it just happens, I just get out of my own way and let the training just take over.” Sometimes referred to in the media as “being in the Zone,” athletes are often recognized for experiencing “Flow” states. Flow is the research [...]
Changing careers can be stressful at any time in your life. When you add the recession, and lack tech-savvy skills for today's job market, your stress level may go through the roof. You can keep your stress under control by recognizing that career change is a process, it takes time, and it progresses in different stages. Know Thyself Just [...]
Stanford professor and career coach John Krumboltz coined the term “planned happenstance” years ago, but the concept is becoming more applicable than ever in today’s ever-changing job market. Reflecting on my own trajectory, and speaking with others in Bozeman, illustrations of the theory in action are abundant. Engage your passions The theory deconstructs old school notions, such as: work [...]
Martial arts training develops key areas of athletic fitness: strength, speed, agility, flexibility, and stamina. This is especially true of modern Taekwondo, with its noted emphasis on kicking. But did you know that martial arts training is also a good way to become a better skier? A major conditioning factor in martial arts is that training tends to be [...]
Anniversaries of loss sometimes have a way of creeping up on us. Often times, around the same time each year, I notice myself getting a little sad or a little grumpy, and I can’t think why… And then at some point it occurs to me that it is once again the anniversary of my mother’s death. Several years after [...]
A recent study on a species of birds, discussed on NPR, suggested that when one generation has abundant resources available for their young, the next generation, lacks work ethic. Is this a matter of parenting style? Doesn’t seem to be. Psychologist Jean Twenge, who authored Generation Me: Why Today's Young Americans Are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled — and More Miserable than [...]
Starting or returning to college is a lot to get used to, even if you already know your way around. Here are a few concrete tips to get off on the right foot this year. Sleep (There Is No Better Fuel) If you want to be alert through the day, you need eight hours of sleep. With fewer than [...]
I’m sure we’ve all been struck, in some form or another, by how much social media (particularly Facebook), is changing our social world. Two observations (positive and negative) regarding these changes have struck me in particular. Facebook recently reminded me of a book I read several years ago called, “Mutant Message Down Under,” by Marlo Morgan. One of many [...]
Setting good boundaries with those you love (or put up with) can sometimes be challenging. People often hit snags because they really care about the other person, and/or they really care what the other person thinks of them. It can help to picture a boundary literally be drawn between the two of you… a divider [...]
Ever try being assertive, but feel like you’re ineffectively going in circles? Some struggle with being more assertive because what they believe is assertiveness is accompanied with guilt. And so they avoid being assertive until they “just can’t take it any more.” The pressure cooker releases and the argument with their (spouse, friend, mother, father, boss, whatever) is ugly. Sometimes they [...]
With more than one kid, parenting is no cakewalk. Not only do you have twice (or triple, or quadruple, or…) the responsibilities, but you’ve got to navigate how to be fair, how to give the right kind of attention, and enough attention. It can feel fraught with landmines. Here are five tips for parenting your sailing siblings: Remember [...]
I had one of the best high school sailing coaches in the country and one of the best college coaches, but boy, did they ever approach the start of practice differently. My high school coach placed our names on the board in order of where we currently stood on the team. My college coach intentionally put us in random [...]
